Friday, December 31, 2010

My 2010 in Review (Closing Out The First Decade Of The New Millennium)

2010 was a year that went fairly expeditiously. There was a lot that happened, so let's get into it!

Highlights for 2010 is headlined with my meeting my nephew Noah for the very first time at his Christening, for I was invited by my Little Sister Latoya and her Fiancée Marvin. When I held his little body, I was HUMBLED!! Looking at him and feeling him breathe, seeing him smile and hear him cry makes me feel the Paternal Instincts kick into Overdrive. I look forward to seeing more of him!

Another Highlight Includes the Following People:


Without these above Friends, my Full Potential would have NEVER been realized if I didn't take that fateful trip to NY the weekend of March 19, 2010. Hearing Joy do her poetry at the Erotic Poetry Night, and at The Shrine where I met Synchronized Rhythm and sat with Kali as we all enjoyed the show, caused me to write my Signature Poem, "Transforming Us" in a record 30 minutes!! I also had the pleasure of tasting Danielle's baked goods, which caused me to hug her at the end of that particular night. She sure knows her sweets!! I have been to NY almost every month during the Summer, to see my friends and enjoy the shows that Chante and Caprice of Synchronized Rhythm had put together. And I Thank Caprice and Chante both for blessing me with the opportunity to open N'Tirzah's Performance Night with "Liquid Lyricals" at The Shrine; My very first poetic performance in 13 years! This happened during my trip in June after an infection that nearly stopped me from making the trip. I got reacquainted with Dennis, with whom I have met briefly in March, where he told me about his Poetic Group, Area 25. I was accepted quickly and warmly into the group. The Challenges that were placed in front of Area 25 pushed my Poetic Limits the likes I have NEVER had them pushed before, and rebirthed the Inspiration and Drive that was buried many years ago.


AND, as an Added Bonus, I have started a Series entitled "Red Heels Recess," inspired by a Fetish Challenge in the Area 25 Group. And seeing how it was so well received by not only the Group, but by the People of FaceBook as well, Caprice had one request:

"Keep Writing!"

I am already formulating MANY more Chapters as we speak (Thank you for closing out Chapter 5 for me, Whimsy!)

Low Lights of this year were very rough...:

The Deaths of My Cousin, My Grandmother and My Great Great Aunt; August, September and October, respectively. I can only pray that they are doing fine Spiritually, and are guiding the Younger Generations into our Futures.

Another Low for me this year was my Hospitalization in June, the same week that I was to go to NY in support of my friends. I felt that I nearly let everyone down by catching a Common Infection (NO ONE can tell me otherwise, and attempting to convince me of the opposite would be unwise; Taking Ownership for my discretions is how I see this, as well as helping in my Self Growth). I knew to be careful, but wasn't, and I paid for it as well as took responsibility.

Thankfully, I am wiser and stronger because of this.

What did I learn this year? Travelling IS FUN!!! NYC did wonders for my Complexion, as did my Kidney Transplant. To get out of Philly and have fun was the Best thing I have ever done! I learned that there is more to this Country than my own city. When I had the Meet and Greet this year, I was hoping that a few people would have caught on to that.

2 did. And DAMN Thankful!!

If you didn't like my saying that, Tough. Deal with it.

I also learned that there are VERY FEW people deserving of a Second Chance, especially after saying some fucked up shit in the Past. I learned that Forgiveness MUST be sought within yourself. For me personally, I NEVER Forget, esp. when someone says something so Horrid, that it scars your Spirit. There are about 6 people that did that. Certain ones got a pass by way of Atonement and Redemption.

My Advice for those few that received a Second Chance: DO NOT Fail Yourself on this Second Chance that you were fortunate to receive from me. You will not get a third.

While I was speaking with my Dad as I was doing dishes while listening to WDAS with Patty Jackson, I came to the realization that we are closing out a Decade.

Yet, this isn't just Another Decade: This is the First Decade of the New Millennium.

The first 10 Years of the 2000 Series was one where I learned a lot:

Love and Loss
Loss and Pain
Friends and Family
Motives, Inspirations, and Opportunities

I can go all day with this, but I'll keep it short.

Basically, what I have learned during these First Ten is this: Adversity doesn't build Character. It SHOWS your Character. And from all the Adversity that I have experienced as well as others Adversities that I have witnessed in the past 10 years, tells me that the people that are in My Life currently, ARE the ones I wish to have for the next 10 years.

Those that have stood by my side as I have stood by theirs from 2000-2010, I am VERY ecstatic to have you, no matter the tenure and/or the Circumstances. I could have been 2 years, it could have predated the New Millennium. Whether for a "Reason," or a "Season," you served a purpose in my Personal Growth. Whatever the case may be as it pertains to you individually, I have two words:

Thank You.

Thank You for being strong. Thank You for being who you are to Me AND Yourself. Thank You for being Consistent. Thank You for teaching me so much during the First Ten of the New Millennium. And Thank You for accepting me in Your Life.

In closing, I am going to share a quote that I came up with earlier this year. And seeing that you, The People, are a Sharp Bunch, you will understand what I am saying:

"Those That Fear Success, Fail. Those That Fear Failure, Succeed."

Happy New Year, and I Love You All!!!

Sunday, December 26, 2010

5 Secrets To Making Him Love You, By Jerusha Stewart

Before I went to bed last night, I checked my email, just to make sure that I didn't miss any bonuses from the games that I play on FaceBook. After I did that, I looked at the Yahoo Main Page, and there was an article was the Center Piece at the time. So I clicked the link, and it took me to Yahoo's Relationships Section; " on Yahoo." So I read the article, and slept on what I Wanted to Say AND Needed to Say.

So when I woke up and took my 100 Degree Shower this morning, I was writing the blog while the water was tapping on my head (Liquid Lyricals).

So, what I am going to do, is Copy the Blog/Article, and I'll give my response at the end.

5 Secrets To Making Him Love You

By Jerusha Stewart

Know a woman who always seems to be in perfect sync with the guy she is dating — they laugh at each other’s jokes, are considerate of one another’s feelings, and are devotedly in love (and best friends to boot)? Well, the reason this gal’s so lucky in love is pretty simple: It’s because she treats her guy right, and he can’t get enough of her company. Now, when I say she “treats her guy right,” what do I mean? She treats him like a friend, giving him the same five-star support, understanding, and (yes) slack we automatically extend to our girlfriends. If you want to reap the same benefits in your own love life, try some of these tips, and, trust me, you’ll notice a difference.

1. Share an activity
For women, it’s second nature to invite their girlfriends along for a shopping spree, yoga class, spa day, you name it. But activity-based bonding shouldn’t be relegated to females only. Guys love jawing over a shared pursuit, and while he might not be up for a mani/pedi (nor you for a day spent watching basketball), there are plenty of other options. Becoming gym buddies is a no-brainer (and can serve as that extra kick-in-the-butt you need to go more often!), or if you two usually dine out on a Saturday night, consider delving into a cook book and taking a crack at a recipe that’s a bit of a challenge, like duck terrine with glazed shallots. Whether it turns out terrific or so odd that you end up ordering takeout, the fact that you’ve worked toward a common goal together builds team spirit. And by investing in a history of shared experiences with your partner in crime, you’ll increase the things you have in common and experience a deeper bond.

2. Cheer him on
Women take great pains to make their girlfriends feel great about themselves, showering them with ego-boosters like, “You look amazing; that is the best color on you” or “Of course, you should email that guy — he’d be lucky to have you!” And while we might think the world of the men we date and even brag about them to our friends and family members, telling him these things doesn’t always occur to us. Maybe it’s because we assume guys possess impenetrable egos — but the truth is, they can be just as insecure as your female friends and would probably appreciate a compliment now and then. So, if he just got a promotion at work, toast him at dinner and tell him exactly why he deserved it. Or try a simple off-the-cuff statement, such as: “You look so good in that shirt — it really brings out the color in your eyes.” Don’t be surprised if he suddenly seems to be around a whole lot more often, basking in your presence.

3. Let him be himself
Most women find it hard to love guys just the way they are. We want to change their hair, their clothes, their job, and sometimes even their friends to fit our ideal. With our own pals, we’re more accepting of their differences; we can actually be proud to have a technology nerd, yoga snob or fashion slave as part of our collection of confidantes. Ruthanna Hall, a sales associate in New York, has learned to relax and appreciate distinctly male behaviors (with great results) in her own relationship. “When we go out, I might feel more like a cool lounge uptown, but then all he’ll want is a round of darts at the neighborhood dive,” she explains. Rather than sulk all evening about his lack of class, she’ll focus in on the funny conversation they’re having. “Sure, most guys do things that cause girls to go ‘uggghhh!’ But that’s just the way they are,” she says. “Why not get on with it and have fun?”

4. Tell him what you think
We don’t expect our best friends to always know what we’re thinking. In fact, we actually enjoy swapping our thoughts, hopes, and fears — that’s most of the fun! But why, then, are we so disappointed when our boyfriends don’t exhibit mind-reading tendencies 24/7? We’ve all been guilty of harboring romantic notions like, “If he’s been listening to me, he’ll know exactly where to take me for dinner on Valentine’s Day” or “If he were truly paying attention right now, he’d know I’m freaking out about this virus on my computer and offer to come over and help.” But trust me, you’ll save yourself a lot of disappointment by just telling him where you want to dine out on Valentine’s Day, or by asking him to come over with his anti-virus software. After all, it’s common knowledge that two heads are better than one, so just because you’ve decided he’s The One, don’t go mum and add major guesswork to your communications.

5. Give him his space
Sometimes, girlfriends just go MIA for awhile. They get so busy at work that they don’t return your emails. Do we give them flack for it? Nothing serious. But for some reason, the rules change for guys: We rail on them for not promptly returning phone calls, take offense if they want a guy’s night out. But remember, achieving a balance between “me” time and “we” time will make the time you do spend together even better. Bridget Cunningham found her relationship got so much mellower once she stopped stressing about where her boyfriend was every hour. “I don’t hold it against him when he wants to have his own time,” she says. “You don’t cut your friends off when they do things with other people, so why shouldn’t it be the same with the person you love? Meanwhile I’m free to go running off with my girlfriend and blab about girl stuff. We meet afterwards for coffee, and we’re both feeling refreshed and fulfilled by spending time apart…and that much happier to be spending time together again.”

Jerusha Stewart, a.k.a. The Last Single Girl in the World, reveals how to be singularly sensational in her book, The Single Girl’s Manifesta.

Article courtesy of Happen magazine,


What I'm going to do as I do this, is go through each point, and give my opinion on it. TRUST ME: Hearing it from a Man WILL Drive this Home for a Good Number of You All.

Point #1: "Share An Activity"

This here, is the ABSOLUTE BEST thing that ANY Young Woman could do for a Guy. The last I checked, if a Relationship is one sided, it is GUARANTEED to Fail, unless one party is comfortable being a Door Mat and Submissive (That shit DOES NOT Fly with me. I have the NEED to Butt Heads in a Relationship!). Do something that HE WANTS TO DO. Believe me, it's like Green Eggs and Ham; Try It, you might like, or dare I say, Love It. He'll even look at you in a Light unlike no other; seeing that you took an interest in an activity that he wants to partake, has "I Love You" written ALL OVER IT!

*On a Personal Note: I play "Yu-Gi-Oh!". There were only 2 people in my Life that actually learned the game, JUST to be closer to me. They both got a Passing Grade in "Andrew Economics" for doing that one "Small Thing" to them, that turned into the Biggest Deal for me. And I am Eternally Thankful for their doing so.*

Point #2: "Cheer Him On"

I LOVE Ms. Stewart for Telling this one!! Simply put: We Men DO have Egoes. But if we do not have it refilled from time to time like a Gas Tank in a Hummer, we do get emotionally depleted, lose ourselves, and we wind up doing DUMB SHIT.

Translation: Build Him Up, NOT Tear Him Down.

If I need to paint the picture for you some more, call my Cell Phone 267.972.7530

Point #3: "Let Him Be Himself"

Question: WHY are you trying to change us into what you WANT us to be? Even Better Question: Why turn us into something that we are not? And when you do, you only wind up discarding us because we are NOT the same person that you were attracted to initially!

This is where A LOT OF WOMEN get it FUCKED UP!!!

We are, WHO WE ARE! My Dad and I have this talk at least 3 times a week: When a person reaches 25, they are considered the "Finished Product"; What you see, is what you get UNLESS a Major Traumatic Event occurs, and creates a change in personality and persona. I consider Point #3 an Issue that you CAN work with, provided that you are WILLING to work with it (Scary Concept, huh? :-/ ).

Simply put: If you don't like how your guy reads the Newspaper while being upside down and dangling in the hallway and drinking tea while saying each and every word aloud, look at it from his Point of View. It may very well be calming and soothing for him. It is the little quirks in a relationship that keeps it going!


Point #4: "Tell Him What You Think"

I have been waiting for this point THE WHOLE WRITE!!!

This one holds so much Sentimental Value because I have been telling this to EVERY WOMAN I KNOW. And I said it in the simplest form:

"Asking us to Read Your Mind is like us Asking You to Fly. It IS Impossible!!"

Look, Ladies: For us Men, Nothing, AND DREW MEANS NOTHING!! is More Sexier than a woman that can tell us ANYTHING. I have a few female friends that tell me things that I do not care to hear, but I LOVE THEM for saying it. It is the Simple Fact that they are Comfortable in themselves and their being that they can open their mouths and say what needs to be said to keep the day and conversation going, AS WELL AS get their point across. It also Eliminates A LOT of Guess Work for us Guys. I'm going to go there and say that a few female friends of mine tell me that they are eating AND they talk while in between bites!

I LOVE THAT!!! Smacking and All!

What may be unrefined to many, is a Turn On for me!

Listen well, ladies. For me PERSONALLY, Point #4 is what I love to call "The Direct Approach" Technique.

Layman's Terms: TELL ME!!!

The SEXIEST THING a Young Lady can do for me is answer one 6-worded Question:

"What do you think of me?"

EASIEST QUESTION IN THE WORLD!! Sadly, the Easiest question in the World, tends to become the most complicated because people don't care to answer it for whatever reason they have (Expectation of us to know what is on your Mind is the Header).

"Game Playing" is reserved for those that are ready to play with a PlayStation, XBOX, PSP, Nintendo DSi, Nintendo Wii, FaceBook Games, etc. If you want to try to game me and say, "You know how I feel about you," I am OUT!!! I don't have time for that shit.

Really Real, Ladies? You WILL lose the Guy that you have had your eye on Faster than he started showing interest you if you cannot (REFUSE, is more like it) answer that EASY QUESTION.

"What Do You Think Of Me?" IS Answerable. Just ANSWER IT!! You'll be surprised, even if it is an answer that will hurt us, we WILL Respect You.

Honestly, I Respect women that are 100% with me; For your Mental Well-Being, Don't toy, let alone, mess over a Guy that is worth the time and effort to get to know, which could translate into being by YOUR SIDE for a Very Long Time.

Point #5: "Give Him His Space"

Once again, I LOVE Ms. Stewart for saying this!!

Ladies, We LOVE being around you, and NOT Just for the Sex. We love your scent, your eyes, your hair, the way you snort when you laugh, the tapping you do with you nails on our arm, ALL OF THAT!! There are some times and days that we want to be left alone, especially us Black Men.

It is called "Black Man Thinking Time" for a reason; it is a Requirement, MANDATED even, that we get this important time so we can Decompress and Evaluate. If my GF or Wife that can do that for me, I will clip her nails, file them down, clean the dirt from under them AND Paint them for a month!! I just ask that you PLEASE, Leave Me Alone with my thoughts and let me do something by myself. Nothing More, Nothing Less.

And when I say that, it doesn't mean that I am Cheating or doing something that I am not supposed to be doing. I just need some space, so I can Gather my Mind and enjoy you that much more when I do see you again.

And the Old Adage that has been preached for years, DOES Apply here: "Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder." Try It and TRUST ME.

I enjoyed this Blog/Article, and this young lady knew what she was talking about. It doesn't hurt to learn something about us Men, and this young lady figured out (or was told) a few parts to the Man Code that we ARE Willing to Share. Heed her Words and mine, and your Relationship with your Significant Other WILL Flourish!

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

U.S. Pays For Kidney, Not for Upkeep: Policy Saves Life, Then Risks It (Written October 14, 2009)

This is an article my dad read this past Sunday in the Inquirer. He showed it to me and made me get into the writing mood. Please read the article, and I will write my opinion and thoughts afterwards.

Posted on Sun, Oct. 4, 2009

Policy Saves Life, Then Risks It

By Monica Yant Kinney, Inquirer Columnist

In 2003, Leonard Porter received a kidney transplant. After he recovered, he felt so good he resumed a grueling job in construction.

"With a healthy kidney," recalled Porter, 40, of West Philadelphia, "I got my life back."

But maintaining that quality of life hinged on taking medication that tricks Porter's body into thinking his brother's kidney is his own. Those two antirejection drugs can run $3,000 a month.

Medicare picked up 80 percent of the cost, but only for three years.

Porter swallowed his last pill in June, wept, and waited. Last weekend, feeling fatigued and bloated, the once-robust bricklayer checked into a hospital.

Porter's perfect kidney was failing, thanks to a health-care system that conspired against him.

"I can't believe they'd give me a kidney and not help me keep it," he said, angrily. "What's the point?"

Porter's doctor asks the same question every day, especially as politicians rail against a public health-care option.

"When you transplant a patient, you adopt them," explained Serban Constantinescu, a nephrologist at Temple University Hospital. "When you adopt someone, don't you have a moral obligation to cover their medication?"

Institutionalized idiocy
The government got into the kidney business in the 1970s after Congress decided that Medicare would cover end-stage renal disease regardless of age or income.

"We have this funny version of national health insurance - if you have this one condition," said Robert Field, a Drexel University professor of law and public health.

But what's funny about a system that forks over $100,000 for a kidney transplant, then sticks recipients with a $36,000 annual prescription bill? When the organ fails because a patient stops taking medication he can't afford, Medicare happily picks up the $71,000-a-year cost of dialysis - for life.

Cost-cutting that leads to double the spending hardly makes sense, Field noted, "but I don't think anyone sat down and said, 'Let's make an idiotic decision.' "

Yet the idiocy ensnares patients like Porter all the time.

He earned too much for Medicaid, but isn't married and didn't have workplace insurance. For a while, Porter spent half his paycheck on private secondary coverage.

"I dropped the policy when I could no longer afford it," he admitted. "But then I couldn't find another insurance company to take me."

A health-care quagmire
The better Porter felt after his kidney transplant, the more he realized his life depended on medication beyond his reach. Eventually, the father of three was reduced to begging for drug samples.

"We see this Catch-22 all the time," said Jacqueline Silver, a Temple transplant social worker. "If your kidneys are working fine, you're not sick anymore. But they're only working fine because of the medicine."

Porter was encouraged to go on welfare so he could get the pills he needed for free. He refused out of pride and principle.

"Welfare might pay for my medication, but it's not going to pay my rent," he said. "I'm a single parent. I'm a taxpayer. I need to work, and I need to keep this kidney."

"I'll pay for the pills," he pleaded. "I just can't pay for all of it."

In June, Porter lost his job and apartment. He rationed his medicine until it was gone.

"At that moment," Constantinescu said, "the battle to save the transplant is lost." Porter's body began fighting the foreign kidney, though it took weeks for him to notice.

"I knew the kidney was damaged," the shamed man said, "but I thought maybe they could save it."

Constantinescu assured Porter he was not to blame and vowed to put him back on the transplant list.

Porter is scared and skeptical.

"I would love to get another kidney," he said, "but only if I can get help with the medication."

He already had his heart broken once. Another failure may kill him.

Now, this article got me to thinking about his situation. I am so deeply saddened that this happened to Mr. Porter. Anyone with the heart, drive and determination to want to pursue a Second Chance at Life, or Life for that matter, is COMMENDABLE. This gentleman, let alone anyone with any type of illness, did not ask for this to happen to them. This happened by Chance and Genetics. When Mr. Porter received his Transplant, he like many others felt amazing! Trust me, I know (My Hand over the Young Lady).

With Mr. Porter's situation, it is unfortunate and painful that his employer did not offer Health Insurance. Had they offered this critical item, he would be living his Life and Enjoying it. he may not have been informed that there was insurance help for Transplant Medication. There may have been a chance that the Social Worker he had did not inform him of the options available to him. For those who have Chronic Kidney Failure, there is the Chronic Renal Disease Program (CRDP). This organization is specifically designed to assist Kidney patients with medication cost for the medication associated with Kidney failure and dialysis. I sincerely hope that someone informs him of this, and I am confident that Mr. Porter will be better educated about his options. I pray that he receives another kidney. He, along with many others, is deserving.

Now. On to Medicare.

I have Medicare A, B and D. That is Hospital, Medical, and Prescription respectively. They are my Primary Insurance. When I return to work, I will have access to the employer's Health Insurance. According to the Article, Medicare will cover my meds for the next 3 years (By the date of our 2nd Kidney Transplant, that will be up to Sept. 29, 2012). After that, "I am on my own." Thankfully, I have CDRP, AARP Rx, and Blue Cross Rx. Meaning, my meds ARE covered for as long as there is breath in my lungs. I am disappointed in Medicare for stiffing us Transplant recipients of Life Saving and Life Sustaining medication, 3 YEARS after the transplant.

Let me get this right:
$3000/month x 12 months equals to $36,000/year for Transplant medication. Medicare covers 80%, or $28,800, leaving $7,200 for us to flip. $7,200/year in monthly patient responsibility equates to $600/month. Now, Dialysis is a $71,000/ year therapy and BUSINESS. By my math, Medicare CAN save $42,200/year, just by paying the Annual 80% for Transplant Meds.

I talked to my dad about this article. He agreed with me that Medicare would save money just by paying for the 80% every year. We also agreed that there is MORE money in being sick. By this logic, Medicare would rather pay for the $71,000/year Dialysis therapy rather than sustaining a newly revitalized Life via a Transplant, which only costs a mere, meager $28,800/year. He also mentioned that we have been in this postion for 23 years. Which means we have much more knowledge and experience with this battle in regards to having access to information necessary to keep my Life intact and going strong.

I hope that the Heads of Medicare can live with themselves for robbing innocent people of their Lives.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

RE-POST: Misogyny, Misogynism And Misogynists: Women’s ULTIMATE Nightmare

DISCLAIMER: These are my Thoughts, Views and Opinions on this Subject Matter. When I am given a Spark, I WILL Write Fire. I may lose you as a follower and/or as a friend. If you are offended by what I have to say, you are more than welcome to stop reading this Note, and hit the "X" on the upper right corner of the screen.

*This Blog is dedicated to EVERY Woman and Young Lady that I came across and did not come across. This goes out as a Warning to young women that Yes, there are Men in the World that are like this. I also write this for those Men and Young Men as a Wake Up Call that IT IS NOT THE FAULT OF THOSE WOMEN YOU DECIDE TO BE WITH that the circumstances of your upbringing were not the best.* Defines Misogyny and Misogynism as the following:

Noun: The hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women. Defines Misogynist as the following:

Noun: One who hates women.
Adjective: Of or characterized by a hatred of women.

This is a Hot Topic with 2 good female friends of mine, with whom their Thought Processes are VERY similar on this subject matter. Their views in certain areas mirrored PERFECTLY. As I was speaking with them both, we learned that many young women who are reaching or reached the Dating Age were NEVER TOLD about the different types of Men in the World. The general consensus of the women that I spoke with was, “Men are only looking for one thing, and you SHOULD NOT give it up to them Quickly and Early!!”

No argument there. Not one argument from me on this front (Just saying, I am more interested in getting the Mind, NOT the Panties).

But what about describing to your daughter(s) about the TYPE of men that are out there?

The Good Guys (Raising my Hand).
The Ones who WILL work hard to provide for their potential family (Raising my Hand).
The Men who do things because they are Sincere and Genuine (Raising my Hand).
The Men who will Step Up to the Plate and take on the responsibility of another man who was either unable to due to fatal circumstances, or the Screw up lied to you about the “Happily Ever After” (Do I even need to put my hand up? And Yes, I will even go there and say SIGNIFYING MONKEY!!).

But you know, not all men are like this. Let’s venture to the other end of the Spectrum:

The Abusers.
The Materialistics (YES!! SOME MEN ARE!!!!) who have Narcissistic Tendencies
The Men that aren’t about anything but what is on the corner, and REFUSE to Be Better by Doing Better in order to Have Better.

And then we have…

The Misogynists; the Chauvinistic Pigs of the Earth. “God’s Gift to Women” because what they say is the Gospel and EVERY MAN, WOMAN AND CHILD SHOULD BOW DOWN TO THEIR GREATNESS.


These are the types of ASSHOLES that make us Good, Hardworking Men look Bad. And yet, these are the guys who screw you over day in and day out about “How much of a Man they are by doing NOTHING to Contribute to the Household or Relationship.” Also, they look at your children from the previous relationship(s) you had and will look down on you because they have it in their FUCKED UP MIND that you couldn’t hold on to the man you had before him. The last guy who got you pregnant (Let’s make this PERFECTLY CLEAR, from my Point of View) is One Part Coward (for not stepping up and doing the RIGHT THING in putting a cap on it {CONSIDERATION OF AND FOR YOUR WELL BEING}), One Part Punk Ass because he ran when it came time to take on Responsibility, and a Whole Lot of Immaturity for not growing up and handling his business as well as the lack of Effort for not helping to make the relationship work.


I will say this ONE TIME…


I CANNOT Stress that enough. His upbringing is reflective of the person that he is today!!

And apparently, the way he was raised Was and STILL IS the Problem! Misogyny’s definition states the hatred, dislike or mistrust of women.

Let’s go in deep, Ladies and Gentlemen!! LET’S GO THERE!!!

If Misogynists are having such a HUGE Issue with women, let’s start with the one they REALLY Dislike, Mistrust and Hate.


*Please Re-Read my Disclaimer at the beginning of this Blog to clarify the following items in which I will be speaking on…*

Somewhere in their upbringing, their mother did some less than savory actions with one or more Less than Reputable people which caused in the process Physical, Mental and/or Emotional Harm to that young man. That young man looks at their mother and wonders Why they are hurting them so, and not Protecting them from harm. This, in the young man’s mind, will translate as well as transform into despising, loathing, disgust, distrust and all around HATRED towards their mother. This in turn trickles down to other female family members (IF they didn’t have their hand in the creation of this “Monster”) and potential future relationships with other women that had NOT A DAMN THING to do with those past actions.

We can also include the Fathers in this Misogynist Equation. By a show of hands, who is familiar with the phrase, “Monkey See, Monkey Do”? Yes!! Young Men do Emulate the acts and actions of the father that is present in their Life. Just like you have Good Fathers that can create Good Sons by acts and actions, there are Bad Fathers who Strike, Abuse, Belittle, Berate, Degrade and all out Decimate their lady. In this young man’s mind, he can gather that “If Daddy is doing this to mommy, then it must be the right way to act around and with ALL Women!”

Now in the same breath, there are VERY FEW MEN that have been through the same situation and have dodged that bullet COMPLETELY, resulting into their being better men and realizing that the Young Lady they have a relationship with IS NOT THE BLAME for their pain and disgust towards their Mother, and even Father’s actions towards their Mother (I know of a few Men that fits this statement, and I am VERY PROUD of them for recognizing and realizing this fact).

Now, the 2 young ladies with whom I had this discussion recently, both brought up some bullet points that mirrored each other, and caused me to write this piece.

Let’s examine and get to it!

• Lack of Socialization Skills
• Lack of Friends
• Potential Homosexuality
• Sense of Entitlement to Berate and Degrade ALL Women as well as Backing Down from the REAL MEN who Challenge their Thinking

First up on this short list is the Lack of Socialization Skills.

The one young lady with whom I had a very nice outing with recently said to me that while she was working with a former employer, several men who worked alongside her felt that they were entitled to being treated like Royalty because they are “Worth It.”

Translation (from the both of us), as far as those men feeling this way, “I am too lazy and cheap to actually put in the Effort and Work to make a Positive Impact in the young lady with which I have some Interest in. She should be GRATEFUL for the Opportunity to even be in my presence.”

Really, Cyrano? It’s like that? You mean to tell me the way to a Woman’s Heart is to be a Chauvinistic Pig, and have these young ladies wipe my ass after I take a truck-sized dump all over them about how they should be Grateful and Thankful for being in the same room with me as well as breathing the same air that I breathe? Is that the Grand Cycle and Great Plan of Man’s Life?

GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!!! No wonder you are Single! Your Dick grew inside of your head instead of a fucking brain!! Sit your Dumb Ass Down somewhere and Masturbate with your Punk Ass!!!

Next on the List is the Lack of Friends.

Now, we all know that friends are the Cornerstone of Fine Tuning your Socialization Skills as well as Overall Interaction with others. According to the 2 young ladies with whom I had this conversation with, they both agreed and taught me that the Misogynist Man either has no friends at all, or keep the company of others with whom they recognize as a “Mental Equal” to their Beliefs as far as the mistreatment and degradation of women.

These dudes must have a Club where they meet once a month without the Wife or Girlfriend (PROVIDED that they have one), and do what they do (I’ll speak on that in a minute) when they all congregate in a Motel Room. To have them in Public and Spout this Fuckery around the REAL MEN of these United States, they would be laying in a pile of their own feces after the REAL MEN teach them a thing or two about how to be a Provider, Protector, Up Lifter and Chivalrous to and for their Lady. The company you keep is a Direct Reflection of Who you Associate yourself with as well as being in Agreement regarding to the views and deductions of Logic in which they are Accustomed.

For the Slow Misogynists, I’ll say it like this:

You are sucking the sacks of the other guys that feel as you feel about mistreating the Ladies in the Lack of YOUR LIFE. Easy Solution: Get away from that thinking, and BE A FUCKING MAN!!!

Now for the next point: Potential Homosexuality

I have no Quirks, Qualms or Squeamishness towards Homosexuality. To each its own, you know what I mean? My 2 Young Lady Friends have brought this one up, and their eyes lit up from where I was sitting (Maybe they knew something I knew or didn’t know?) When these young ladies approached their mate (at that point in time) about why they were being treated the way that they were being treated, they did IN FACT ask their mate about their Sexual Orientation. Of course for me and the REAL MEN, we would flat out, I Repeat, FLAT OUT, Deny those Allegations! I LOVE Women, and those that know me know this Fun Fact!! I won’t go into details, but let’s just say that they will not have a hard time getting me to a location to spend coveted “Quality Time” with them.


It seems from their experiences with their Former Mates, they gave Wishy-Washy responses to those allegations. In their Opinion as well as my own, Yeah, you are Undercover. If you hate women that much boys, WHY TRY TO GET WITH THEM?! You are more Comfortable being around the guys who think and feel as you do, ere go the Meeting once a Month in a Motel Room (HMMM. Makes me wonder what they are doing in those said Rooms…)

Come on, Misogynists!! We won’t judge you! You like Boys!! It’ll help explain a lot about why you hate women so damn much!

LET’S BE PERFECTLY CLEAR! I am in NO WAY, SHAPE OR FORM Attacking the Homosexual Community. I am talking about the Men who are Misogynists; the Assholes that feel that they have a…

Sense of Entitlement to Berate and Degrade ALL Women as well as Backing Down from the REAL MEN who Challenge their Thinking

I have a few people that I can throw under the bus with this point. But, I only have one person that I will use as My Example: James H.

Let’s examine James H., a man who does Video Blogs in our dear FaceBook Universe. My female friend suggested that I listen to 2 Video Blogs that this man posted. The first one wasn’t too bad. I actually agreed with his points. She gave me a second link to watch. Something inside of me wanted to NOT watch it. Reluctantly and Hesitantly, I clicked the link and started watching his second Video.

I was NOT pleased. First off, this Video Blog was entitled “Warnings Make Women’s Panties Wet,” declaring from his trash talking mouth and in his WARPED MIND that, and I Quote (TO THE BEST OF MY MEMORY), “When a woman expresses interest in a man and chooses to be with him, from that day forward, what ever happens in that relationship between those two IS THE WOMAN’S FAULT!”

*Insert Disgust for this Statement Here. *I DAMN SURE DID!!*

Here is what he said (to the best of my knowledge) about Khloe Khardasian, her “Love Interest” and their son:

“Khloe Khardasian chose to be with this Asshole man and she winds up pregnant with his child, which was born a boy. This means that there will be another Motherfucker who will grow up to be just like him…”

After that remark, I stopped the video blog and started my Debate with him about his choice words for that situation. The following is what was said between us:

February 28, 2010

Andrew Boyd
From 0:55-1:41...
I have to argue that time frame when you referred to the child that was birthed.

Seeing that I am a Product of a "PURE D ASSHOLE," I am nothing like him. I actually was fortunate enough to be raised by Good Parents and not become his Doppleganger. Basically, ASSHOLE Sperm Donor VS. Dad who is not my blood and treats me as if I was a product of his own body.

I cannot stand Khardasian Fuckery, but I hope Khloe K. can find a good example for her child in a father figure (who is WILLING {OPERATIVE WORD}) to step up and take on this Responsibility and teach the little boy who was NOT ASKED to be born, mind you, to be a Fully Functioning and Respectful Human Being as he grows up and matures.

After thinking a little more as I calmed down:

March 2, 2010

Andrew Boyd
P.S.: To call their Newborn Baby a "Muthaphucka" when the child did not ASK to be conceived, birthed and born is Out of Line.

Keep in mind, we all WERE NOT asked to be conceived, birthed or born. Someone could have called you that. And if you have children, how would you feel if someone called them that? You'll be ready to F@ck them up.

James H.’s Response? It is as follows:

March 2, 2010

James H.
Andrew, quit being Captain Sensitive.

FaceBook Universe…


Those that TRULY KNOW ME, knows for a FACT that I could have went into Assault Mode on this dude and Verbally Fucked Him 5000 ways to Sunday for that BULLSHIT he said to me!! I came at him intelligently those days and I struck a Chord within him that warranted his reaction in this fashion. This NIGGER (’s 2nd Definition Describes the word Nigger as Slang: Extremely Disparaging and Offensive. A person of any race or origin regarded as contemptible [Deserving of or held in contempt; Obsolete], inferior, ignorant, etc. {The RIGHT terminology as well as Spelling with the context in which I am using this word}) DID NOT know who the FUCK he was talking to IN THIS MANNER!!!

I calmed down, within 60 seconds (LITERALLY) I responded:

March 2, 2010

Andrew Boyd
Correction. Captain Considerate.

March 2, 2010

James H.
Whatever, bro.

I can tell you right now, I smelled Misogynist on this dude like a VERY RIPE Diaper. I told this story to a number of people (My one good female friend with whom experienced and was subjected to this trash, my parents as well as the young lady who watched this video), and they all saw the same thing that I saw and exposed within him:

He IS a Misogynist who COULD NOT back up his own BULLSHIT! That conversation that I put up there actually happened! I called him on his Bullshit, and he couldn’t argue it!! The reason is very obvious and a very simple one. He NEVER went up against a REAL MAN who could successfully challenge him on his words (Especially seeing that I come from Both Sides of the Spectrum). My dad said it best:

“If you believe in your Heart of Hearts that your words are the Truth, you will defend them Tooth and Nail to the Bitter End.”

Remember that Status I posted that morning of March 2, 2010?

“I LOVE IT When I Make Strong Points, And People Cannot Challenge Me On Those Points. I Am A Debater By Nature; Taught By The Best, And By The Experiences In Which I Was A Part Of...”

I WAS TALKING ABOUT THIS NUT!!! This is the IDIOT Misogynist I was referring to as far as this Quote!! Sharon, Rhonda, Lamont, Lisa and Lykena ALL Agreed with that Status! Hell, Lamont Called Me “Senator” And “Counselor” Boyd!

I am just a man who saw an Opportunity to Debate a piece of wording that James H. used as HIS example of how women make Bad Decisions about the man they chose at that point in time that felt right to them, and he got PUNKED BY ME!!! He didn’t have a leg to stand on, as he tucked his little tail between his legs and ran like a SCALDED DOG that was beaten like a GOVERNMENT MULE!!!

Ladies and Gentlemen of FaceBook Universe, I wrote this Blog because this NEEDS to be Exposed and Said As a Public Service Announcement. Parents of Young Men and Women that are on the Precipice of Dating (which is where this Actually Starts):

PLEASE sit your child(ren) down and have this discussion!! There are Good People in the World, and they can find them. Educate them on the Warning Signs of Misogynists Beforehand. If they discover that they are with a Misogynist, I sincerely hope that your teachings will help them make the Right Choice.

My Name Is Andrew Boyd, And I Approve This Message!!

~© 2010 Andrew Boyd~